As we were sitting in the circle and checking-in we realized that nobody has prepared a topic for discussion. That immediately lead to Silence as everyone was expecting someone else to speak.
The silence became heavy very fast and someone started talking, just to break it.
She was talking too long and not making any point.
I was pointing out that it may be that breaking the silence with "noise" has a purpose. That we are making a lot of noises (doing doing doing) in our lives to protect us from something. What is the role of this noise?
The group suggested a few possible roles:
- It is distracting, cuts the line of thought and hence protecting us from reaching our goals.
- It saves us from the silence, gives a sense of security, protects from anxiety
- A sense of control. If I speak I am in control. If I listen I can be surprised.
- takes away our attention from what is really important
- helps us Not to do our duties
- Isolates us from ourselves moving our focus to the outside
And why do we need this role?
Because there are voices inside ourselves that we don't want to hear.
In some of us there is a voice of judgement and criticism that we would like to avoid.
A Voice that was implanted in us in our early days by a meaningful authority.
A Voice that says: You are not good enough!
An inner voice that is an inner noise.
So we spend a lot of time in our lives to avoid the inner noise by making external noises.
And hence we run and try to juggle with many balls in the air, but never get satisfied because the inner noise is still there.
So what can we do? Confront the inner voice/noise. See where it came from. have a conversation with the meaningful authority about it. Actively take our freedom and self esteem back.
also, identify when we are making external noises and distinguish it from what we really need to do.
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